In this enlightening episode, Jay Shetty delves into the complexities of love and relationships 🌹
He poses a thought-provoking question: why is it often easier to connect with the outside world than with our loved ones? Jay explores how love can become stressful rather than a source of safety, despite the deep care we have for one another. Through insights from his Audible Original, “Messy Love: Difficult Conversations for Deeper Connection,” he identifies everyday behaviors that create distance, such as subtle disrespect, scorekeeping, and mismatched conflict styles.
Jay highlights that many issues we label as incompatibility often stem from unresolved hurt and inherited fighting patterns rather than a lack of love. He emphasizes five transformative principles to help couples turn conflict into connection:
1. Building love on respect, not just chemistry
2. Stopping scorekeeping before it breeds resentment
3. Expressing needs without blame
4. Identifying and improving your conflict style
5. Repairing after arguments instead of withdrawing
Healthy love is about choosing understanding over ego and respect over being right. It’s these small, consistent choices that can truly transform relationships.
For further exploration on this topic, check out Jay’s Audible Original “Messy Love”:
https://www.audible.com/pd/Messy-Love
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